My greatest wish for humanity, is that each and every individual have the opportunity, and the tools, to be the most extraordinary version of themselves as they wish to be. Success or failure, in all things, has a great deal to do with making distinctions. But, even more importantly, the distinctions must accurately reflect reality in order for them to be of any use in progressing towards desired outcomes.
I’ve written at length as to what distinctions are, the various types of distinctions there are (micro-distinctions, nested), why they’re important, the problems associated with making them, and how RSTP puts distinctions at the heart of the skill transfer process.
But, all the distinctions in the world are worthless if they don’t accurately reflect reality. A few years back, I came across a gem of a book, written way back in 1973 by Harry Browne – How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World. I return to its lessons over and over again, especially when I’ve ignored it’s basic wisdom to my own great peril and disaster (my attorney has instructed me to NOT talk about it… sigh…).
Browne is very explicit that one must, absolutely MUST, correctly assess the nature of people and situations (ie make distinctions) and work in alignment with that very nature. I tend to think of this in terms of the Aesop’s Fable, “The Scorpion and the Frog.” Basically, the scorpion talks the frog into swimming him across the water. The scorpion allays the frog’s concerns that the he will sting him partway across and he’ll drown by pointing out the absurdity of him stinging the frog, for he, too, would die. Predictably the scorpion stings the frog. They both know they’re gonna’ drown. The frog asks, “Why, oh, why would you do that?” and the scorpion basically shrugs (can scorpions shrug??) and says “Gee, I can’t help it, it’s just my nature.” Continue reading